AI that texts you first: how it works and where the message lands
Plenty of AI products message you first now, so the feature itself no longer tells you much. Three things differ: where the message lands (an app notification, your phone’s Messages app, or a chat app such as WhatsApp or Telegram), what it’s about (a check-in, something you said, or a task result), and what control you have over how often it happens.
Hallie is an AI friend you text in Messages. She remembers what you tell her.
Meet HallieFacts about other products checked on November 11, 2026 against each vendor’s own pages and store listings; facts about Hallie checked the same day. We make Hallie, and she’s our pick. Sources are at the bottom of the page.
The short answer
An AI that “texts you first” sends a message without waiting for you to write. Hallie, Kindroid, Nomi, Replika, Khio, Poke, Tolan and ChatGPT’s dot all describe some version of this on their own pages. They differ on three points:
- Where the message lands. In the product’s own app, in your phone’s Messages app, or in a chat app such as WhatsApp or Telegram.
- What it’s about. A general check-in, a follow-up on something you said, a reminder you asked for, or the result of a task.
- What control you have. A frequency setting, quiet hours, a stop word, asking in the conversation, or nothing published at all.
Three things “texts you first” can mean
1. A notification from an app
The message is written inside the product’s app, and your phone shows a push notification. You open the app to read and answer. Nomi works this way: its help article says to “enable push notifications on your device or browser so you can see that your Nomi messaged you”. Replika’s help center says that once notifications are enabled, “you’ll start receiving messages from Replika throughout the day.” If notifications are off, you see nothing until you open the app.
2. A message in your phone’s Messages app
The message arrives as a text from a phone number, in the same list as texts from people. For most of these products that means iMessage on an iPhone or RCS in Google Messages on Android; Kindroid’s docs, for example, say SMS and MMS are not supported. Hallie, Kindroid (for subscribers who turn on text messaging), Khio (iMessage on iPhone only), Poke and ChatGPT’s dot (U.S. Pro users, in beta) work this way. Warmth’s blog describes its character Mia the same way, saying her check-ins arrive “in the thread itself rather than as a notification”, although Warmth’s current terms describe only its desktop app.
3. A chat in WhatsApp or Telegram
The message arrives in a chat app you already use. Poke’s docs list WhatsApp and Telegram next to Apple Messages and RCS, and you pick the channel in its settings. Meta announced on July 24, 2026 that Meta AI can send a daily briefing, starting in the Meta AI app and on meta.ai in select markets, with WhatsApp to follow. We found no Meta page confirming that briefings now arrive in WhatsApp.
What eight products say about messaging first
| Product | Where it lands | What it sends, and when | Controls you get |
|---|---|---|---|
| Hallie | Your Messages app: iMessage on iPhone and Mac, Google Messages on Android (new Android sign-ups need a US number for now). | Only after you’ve texted her. Usually about something you told her, such as a plan or a person. If you go quiet she checks in once or twice, then waits for you. | You ask in the thread. She can change when she follows up, and if you ask her to stop, she stops. |
| Kindroid | In the Kindroid app. Also your Messages app (iMessage or RCS) if you turn on text messaging. Paid subscribers only. | Messages, voice messages, selfies or voice calls, chosen from context. If you don’t reply it waits about 2 hours, then 4, then 8. After a week with no reply, only an occasional check-in. | Reach out frequency: Normal (the default, “usually a few times a day”) or Often (about once an hour while you’re away). Quiet hours are optional and start as 10 PM to 8 AM when you turn them on. |
| Nomi | In the Nomi app or browser tab, with a push notification. Free accounts included. | A message after you’ve been away. If you don’t reply, it waits about double the time before the next one. | Four levels per Nomi: Very Frequent (over an hour since your last message), Frequent (about 3 hours), Normal (about a day), Infrequent (about 4 days, and only once). Quiet hours are fixed at 10 PM to 8 AM local time. |
| Replika | In the Replika app, once notifications are on. | Follow-ups on past conversations and check-ins, “throughout the day”. | Notifications on or off. No published cadence, cap or quiet hours. |
| ChatGPT’s dot | iMessage or RCS on Android, in beta for U.S. Pro users. Also inside ChatGPT, Slack and Microsoft Teams. | Results of work it is doing for you, and decisions that need you. | You can tell it which channel to use for which kind of news. Pause stops its main task; Scheduled cancels recurring ones. |
| Khio | iMessage on an iPhone. | Scheduled reminders, morning and evening check-ins, follow-ups and weekly recaps, for the goal and schedule you give it. | You set the schedule by telling it. Reply STOP to stop messages. Proactive check-ins are on the Pro plan; the Free plan includes 5 reminders a month. No quiet hours published. |
| Poke | Apple Messages, RCS, WhatsApp or Telegram; you choose in settings. | Proactive updates drawn from the services you connect (such as email and calendar) and its memory. | You pick the channel. No frequency setting or quiet hours published; its terms say frequency “varies based on your account activity and preferences.” |
| Tolan | Not stated. Conversations happen in the Tolan app on Apple devices. | Tolan’s FAQ says the character “checks in”. | Not stated on Tolan’s pages. |
Other products: checked November 11, 2026 against each vendor’s own pages. Hallie: checked November 11, 2026.
Hallie is an AI friend you text in Messages. She remembers what you tell her.
Meet HallieHow to read the table
If you want to be asked how something went, look at what the message is about. Hallie’s follow-ups are usually about a person, plan or event you mentioned, and they arrive as texts. Replika’s store listing says it “follows up and checks in when it matters”, inside its app.
If you want a dial, pick Kindroid or Nomi. They are the only two products here that publish both a frequency setting and quiet hours. Nomi’s four levels work on free accounts, and its quiet hours are always on. Kindroid’s Often setting checks in about once an hour while you’re away, and its own docs warn that without quiet hours “check-ins can come at night.” With Hallie the control is the conversation: you ask her in the thread to change when she follows up, or to stop.
Reminders at times you choose. Khio’s messages follow the goal and schedule you give it. ChatGPT’s dot reports on tasks, and OpenAI’s docs say that for an update at a specific time you should give it a time zone and a duration or end date and ask it to confirm the schedule.
Messages in WhatsApp or Telegram. Poke is the verified option in this list. It is an assistant for email, scheduling and reminders, so its messages are about those things.
Kindroid’s docs add one condition for its texts: if you haven’t texted your Kindroid in a while, proactive texts stop, because “too many AI sends will cause lines to be marked as spam.”
How Hallie handles it
Hallie never texts a number that hasn’t texted her first. After you’ve texted her, she starts conversations too, usually about something you told her: the interview, the date, the trip. She keeps track of the people, plans and events you mention, brings them up later, and asks how it went. If you go quiet, she checks in once or twice and then waits for you.
Her messages land in iMessage on iPhone or Mac, or in Google Messages on Android, from a US number. There’s no app to install and nothing to turn on, and her thread sits in the same list as texts from people.
You control it by asking. Tell her in the thread to change when she follows up and she will, and if you ask her to stop, she stops. You can also ask her for a one-off or recurring reminder text.
Of the AI companions we’ve used, Hallie is the one that feels most like texting a person. That is our judgment, and we make her.
Her watch-out on this topic: her replies are text, so she doesn’t send selfies or voice messages, though she understands the photos, voice memos and links you send. More on how her thread works is on the texting page.
Questions
Which AI texts you first in your phone’s Messages app?
As of November 11, 2026, five products in the table above say so on their own pages: Hallie (iMessage and Google Messages; new Android sign-ups need a US number for now), Kindroid (paid subscribers, with text messaging turned on), Khio (iMessage on iPhone only), Poke and ChatGPT’s dot (U.S. Pro users, in beta). Nomi and Replika message first inside their own apps and reach you by notification.
Can I control how often an AI messages me?
It depends on the product. With Hallie you ask in the thread: she can change when she follows up, and if you ask her to stop, she stops. Nomi has four levels per character and fixed quiet hours from 10 PM to 8 AM. Kindroid has two frequency settings and optional quiet hours. Replika publishes no cadence. Khio follows the schedule you give it.
Will an AI text me before I’ve ever messaged it?
For the two products where we could verify the first step, it is a message from you. Hallie never texts a number that hasn’t texted her first. Kindroid’s setup opens your Messages app to your Kindroid’s number and asks you to send a message.
Does Gemini text first in Google Messages?
No Google page we read says Gemini starts conversations in Google Messages. Gemini does have schedules: Google’s help page says you can have up to 10 active at a time and that you get a notification on your mobile device when a result is ready.
How do I make it stop?
With Hallie, ask her to stop and she stops. Nomi’s proactive messages are a per-character setting you can leave off. Kindroid’s are a subscriber feature you turn on per Kindroid. Khio’s terms say to reply STOP.
Sources
- Kindroid docs, “Chat features and tools” (Away proactive actions guide; Text Messaging) and “Subscriptions”, kindroid.ai, checked November 11, 2026
- Nomi Knowledge, “Proactive Messaging: When Your Nomi Messages You First” (September 9, 2024), nomi.ai, and Nomipedia, “How do proactive Nomi messages work?”, checked November 11, 2026
- Replika Help Center, “How do I set up my app’s notifications?”; Replika App Store listing, checked November 11, 2026
- ChatGPT Learn, “Meet dots”, “Message your dot” and “Text your dot” (What’s new, October 26 to 30, 2026), checked November 11, 2026
- Khio FAQ and Terms, khio.ai, checked November 11, 2026
- Poke Docs, FAQ, homepage and Terms, poke.com, checked November 11, 2026
- Tolan FAQ, tolans.com, checked November 11, 2026
- Warmth blog, “Why We Built Mia for iMessage Instead of Another App”, and Warmth Terms of Service (effective October 10, 2026), warmth.so, checked November 11, 2026
- Meta Newsroom, “Meta AI Doesn’t Just Think, It Acts” (July 24, 2026), checked November 11, 2026
- Google, Gemini Apps Help, “Schedules in Gemini Apps” and “Use Gemini in Google Messages”, checked November 11, 2026
- Hallie: hallie.io and our own product records, checked November 11, 2026
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